Book Review: Love, Ellen
Love, Ellen A Mother/Daughter Journey by Betty Degeneres
Publisher: Rob Weisbach Books, an imprint of HarperCollins
Release Date: 1999
My rating: 4.5 of 5 stars
Publisher’s Description:
“Mom, I’m gay.” With three little words, gay sons and daughters can change their parents’ lives forever. Twenty years ago, during a walk on a Mississippi beach, Ellen DeGeneres spoke those simple, powerful words to her mother. That emotional moment eventually brought mother and daughter closer than ever, but it was not without a struggle. In Love, Ellen, Betty DeGeneres tells her story: the complicated path to acceptance and the deepening of her friendship with her daughter, the media’s scrutiny of their family life, and the painful and often inspiring stories she’s heard on the road as the first nongay spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign’s National Coming Out Project.
I picked this book up after I heard country singer Chely Wright mention it when she appeared on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. She said this book was a great support to her in coming out as a lesbian. I love Ellen and her mom Betty so I knew I had to read this book.
Love, Ellen was about more than just Ellen and Betty’s relationship. It’s really a memoir of Betty’s whole life. Luckily, she has had an interesting life. After she divorced Ellen’s father, she married a man she refers to only as “B” who was abusive to both her and Ellen. Of course, there is a lot about Ellen’s life in here too. Betty quotes letters Ellen wrote to her through the years and she writes in detail about the period in Ellen’s life when she decided to come out publicly as a lesbian. If you are a fan of Ellen’s brother Vance DeGeneres you should know that there is a little bit about him in the book but it’s definitely more about Ellen and Betty.
This book was written when Ellen and Anne Heche were still together and Anne was still masquerading as someone not completely bonkers (in my opinion). I cringed a little every time Betty referred to Anne as her other daughter. However, that’s just one more way in which Betty is completely supportive of Ellen – she welcomed Ellen’s partner with open arms right from the beginning of their relationship.
Betty DeGeneres is an inspiring example of a woman who loves her children unconditionally. Betty isn’t perfect and she knows that. She writes about her mistakes as well as her successes in life. This is a wonderful book for pretty much everyone – Ellen fans, Betty fans, LGBT people and allies.
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